Ghanaian gospel musician, pastor and life coach Sonnie Badu has stirred intense online discussion after sharing strong views on marriage, purpose and leadership within relationships.
In a video posted on his official Instagram page on Saturday, February 14, the award-winning singer cautioned women to be mindful of the kind of men they choose to marry. According to him, marrying a man without vision can significantly delay a woman’s progress in life.
He described marriage as deeply spiritual, explaining that once a woman chooses to follow a man, spiritual authority operates through that man.
“If you find a husband with a vision, be careful how you follow. If you find a husband without a vision, pray that he discovers his vision,” he said.
“Because so long as you follow him, God will not hear you; God will hear him.”
Mr Badu further argued that when a man lacks purpose and direction, it affects not only him but also the woman who aligns her life with his. He stressed that such situations can result in stagnation, particularly when the woman’s dreams and calling have no place within the man’s vision.
Drawing from his experience in marriage counselling, the gospel artiste revealed that he often advises men without a clear sense of purpose not to rush into marriage.
“I told the husband, sir, do you have a purpose and a vision? If you don’t have a purpose and a vision, don’t marry,” he stated.
“Because your wife must live her dream in your purpose and your vision.”
He went further to suggest that alignment is central to a successful union. According to him, if a woman’s dreams are not in harmony with a man’s vision, the relationship may be fundamentally flawed.
“If your wife and your dream are not in alignment with his purpose and vision, then you are not his wife. You’re somebody else’s,” he added.
“You’re not his rib. You met out of emotions.”
Addressing leadership roles in marriage, Mr Badu asserted that while women play critical and influential roles, spiritual leadership, in his view, is biblically assigned to men.
“So long as God remains God, a woman can never lead. It is biblical,” he said.
“But a woman can be the brain in the man to lead.”
His comments have since generated mixed reactions across social media platforms. While some users agree with his emphasis on purpose, direction and alignment in relationships, others have criticised his remarks as outdated and dismissive of women’s leadership roles in modern marriages.
The conversation continues to trend online, reflecting broader societal debates about faith, gender roles and evolving expectations within relationships.
